Today you have learned about your husband’s betrayal. This is the reality that you cannot change. And not a neighbor told you about this, not a girlfriend whispered, you yourself caught adultery. The volcano of emotions, offensive words pours out of your throat, in which a scream is simply bogged down.
Try to stop, refrain. Survive your emotions stoically without saying a word. Without saying anything, with a husband, take things you need for the first time, do not lie down tears, boldly and with dignity leave the house where the betrayal was produced. If you have children, then send them to your parents, if it is permissible. Anyway, any thing the first period will remind of what happened. So we leave the house for exactly one week.
The second step
After that time you left your husband in your little solitude, give expanse to your feelings. Cry, scream, swear – splash out everything bad, all the bile that has accumulated over the past day. You can drink a sedative, however, everything is in moderation.
After bitterness and initial resentment leaves, go out into the fresh air, take a walk around the city. You can take a shopping for shops, buy a thing about which they had been dreamed for a long time. What you can allow yourself, but never allowed by purchasing food and a robe for children and husband. Do something pleasant to warm your soul.
The third step
If the case of betrayal is not the only one, if your husband was not averse to turning “to the left, then you decide whether to stay with such a man to stay with such. Is it worth it to pass through yourself, personal feelings and become even more unhappy?
If the infidelity was an unlucky, random error, then it is necessary to strictly inquire, which is most in you now: love or hatred? And if there is more love, then you need to forgive your husband and return to the family. Not even so much for the sake of children as for fidelity and harmony. After all, making a betrayal in response, you perform an action as unseemly as made by your husband.
The fourth step
Provided that the power of your emotions does not allow you to leave your beloved man, and you can forgive him or have almost forgiven him, then go back home in a week of separation. Put yourself in order: make a hairstyle and makeup, put on a new beautiful thing. Let your spouse recognize you again. And he will certainly appreciate! Make the dishes that a man loves.
The fifth step
Spend the maximum time together. Buy theatrical tickets or go together to a restaurant or cafe. Listen to romantic melodies, talk to each other about the most important in your life. Find the time to be each other, without children. Comprehend each other again. And perhaps you will find fresh, still unknown pages in your loved one, becoming even closer to him.